What is the deal with men and women?

Why do we so misunderstand each other? Seriously, what is it with men? We try to tell them what we want then they get defensive and say we nag! Well, as it turns out, the biggest fear men have in relationships is that of SHAME. They really feel bad when they think they have failed or that they are disappointing us. (Yes, men really do want to make us happy.) Even though they look big and strong and act that way a lot, too-they do have feelings. ( I know, it is hard to tell!). Back in prehistoric times, a man’s job was protecting and providing for the women and children. I always say, we think we are all so sophisticated but deep down we still are a lot like our prehistoric ancestors. Men still feel that way now.

And what about women? We just want to be close to the guys we like. We want to spend time with them. Yet, men seem to be just fine being without us. Well, a woman’s biggest fear is being left, abandoned and not connected. Back in the Stone Age, or at least a really long time ago, women NEEDED a group and men for protection. So we are hard-wired to want to be close. And we get really anxious when men don’t need the same thing.

So my new favorite book is How To Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It. If you are dating, get it now! It will save you a world of hurt. It is by my mentor Pat Love (www.patlove.com) and Steven Stosny (www.compassionpower.com). You will get so many tips on how to deal with and understand the opposite sex and improve your relationships!

Here’s to us figuring out how to do this relationship thing!

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