Nope, I’m talking about how women HAVE to be the relationship leaders:) we are anyway:) And how to do that.

Do you think you are the leader in your relationship? Have any stories to share?

Leave a comment below, share with your friends and please tweet about it if you find

It helpful! @SueBates

Lets DO This!

http://recording.freeconferencecalling.com/mp3/511143/511143/IA1205_02122011122328707_1150590.mp3

This is what I think we need to do to change our lives so

we can get what we want and… be heros for our girls.

What do YOU think are the most important changes we need to make?

Leave a comment below, share with your friends and please tweet about it if you find

It helpful! @SueBates

Lets DO This!

http://recording.freeconferencecalling.com/mp3/511143/511143/IA1205_01152011115215319_1150273.mp3

They seem to know what they want and they don’t worry much about what others think about it?

Well, the reason is…

http://recording.freeconferencecalling.com/mp3/511143/511143/IA1205_01012011142951134_1155963.mp3

Would love to hear what you think. Tweet me! @SueBates

And please share with others you think might be interested.

Leave a comment below and lets get this conversation going.

over about yourself or your life?

“I’m not smart enough.”

“Women don’t like me.”

“God hates me.”

Find out what your “thing” is and how it can set you free!

http://recording.freeconferencecalling.com/mp3/511143/511143/IA1205_12112010143918413_1154265.mp3

Would love to hear your thoughts on what you “lead” with in your life. What drives you? And how have you learned to work with it?

Please leave a comment below.

This will help you stay powerful!

Be sure and share this post with anyone you think it will help!

And what have you done to deal with this issue? Would love some other ideas.

Leave any comments below, I will be sure and answer back.

http://recording.freeconferencecalling.com/mp3/511143/511143/IA1205_11282010142444415_1152879.mp3

P.S. I have an in-person group starting in Seattle in

January, It goes through all the maps so

you can be clear about what you want and start down the

road to create it! It’s a 7 week course. Be sure and check it out.

It’s under Graphics and Visuals.

Guess they really are stressful.

And Cody is still helping everyone

out with pets, at least the in-person clients. He’s getting a bit

older, 12 or so. A little slower, but still a very loving therapy dog.

My hope is that this Audio helps

you deal with relatives, and know how to show up as a

strong, powerful person. They sure can be tricky sometimes, huh?

They might be yours or your spouse’s or partner’s. But ya still

have to deal with ‘em!

I also talk about how Patrick Swayze can help us;

in a fun way. (I sure do miss his acting.) Click here to listen.

http://recording.freeconferencecalling.com/mp3/511143/511143/IA1205_11132010140337903_1151318.mp3

Be sure and leave a comment about how YOU have dealt

with tricky situations over the holidays. Would love to hear

your opinion.

Stay warm and cozy,

Sue

P.S. I have an in-person group starting in Seattle in

January, It goes through all the maps so

you can be clear about what you want and start down the

road to create it! It’s a 7 week course. Be sure and check it out.

It’s under Graphics and Visuals.

I FEEL _(A FEELING)___________ When you___(A BEHAVIOR)____________

And I would like for you to__(A BEHAVIOR)_____________________.

Listen here for more info and how to use the sentence. You will feel more in control

and much more powerful:)

mp3 file link

These are the feelings to choose from: SAD, ANGRY, HURT, SCARED,  HAPPY:)

What has been your experience in asking for what you want? What works and what doesn’t?

Be sure and leave comments and questions and I will answer!

Let’s DO This!

I think women are so strong and want so much to make good families and have functional relationships. BUT, I have been working one on one with women for 34 years, and if we don’t claim our power and KNOW what we each have to offer, we are f…..ed!

It’s funny that we had a Women’s Movement, but there are so many women who still have low self esteem.  We are wasting so much time and energy worrying about how we look, if our butt is big, afraid of making people angry, afraid someone won’t like us, afraid men will leave us or never “pick” us.

This is a BIG problem for what we are teaching younger women. Our daughters, our nieces, our granddaughters, our sisters.

Women have a great intuition, they have dreams and are usually in touch with them. So much potential. I have heard so many women say they were walking down the isle and knew they shouldn’t be marrying this person, but they did anyway.

Let me share a story of Janice who is 50ish:

She is such a fun person, she has a loving partner in her life, she is smart, has a good job and has a great community of friends. You know what she worried about most of the time? Her body. She has everything anyone could want and that is what she focused on. And of course the story ends with her learning who she really is and what she really wants and she is moving forward to make that happen:)

And there is Carmen 26:

She is amazing; when I work with her she figures out things so quickly. Like why she has let people treat her badly and why she didn’t think she could do what she wants to in life. She is fighting a disease, and I have never seen anyone work so hard to get it cleared up. She is seeing that she can have work that she wants, and that she can pick friends that are good to her. (She’s getting rid of the old ones that aren’t respectful. and kind and doing their work.)

We learn how to be in the world from the family we came from. Yeah, yeah, I know, a lot of people think it doesn’t matter. BUT, if you didn’t have good role models that were loving and kind and enjoying their life most of the time, you are not going to have a light hearted life with power and purpose. You’re going to be worried and concerned a lot of the time. That doesn’t help you get what you want. And it doesn’t show younger women power in their world.

Soooo, I believe women have so much power, we can save the word, we can raise and influence the children in our life. We can work it out, there is always a way to grow into our BIG selves.

What do you think? What have you leaned about yourself and power? What is your belief about power? Please leave a comment below.

Let’s DO this!!!

Just a note to let you know why I started this site.

Through the years as I work with women clients, I  always know I am really working with women and empowerment, still a BIG problem! Now I get to have a BIG VOICE about what I think is going on with women and power. I am so excited. It’s just bubbling inside. I have so many stories to share and my hope is they will inspire and encourage women to be their big self.

I am now certified as a Shift-It Coach. I am working a lot with visuals and graphics. 87% of people learn better with visuals. My clients have been using the 17 maps and I am very impressed with how powerful they are.  I think they help women move forward quicker.

I have been a therapist for 34 years. When I work with clients, I am very practical. Through the years I noticed that sometimes people just need some well founded advice, information and direction to change the things they want in their life. This is what I want to do here. This is not therapy, just information from the latest research and my years of experience working with clients. I do still do therapy in my office in Seattle, but not on the phone. The new Consulting with Visuals I can do with anyone in any location.

So you get the SAME information I give to clients, but not in a therapy format. Just down to earth, practical information to help you Go Down The Road and change the things you want in your life. (you can’t set on the couch, you have to get up and go down the road to create what you want:)

As we go along, I will be having Videos and Audios with a LOT of information that will help you change your life.

I just love doing this and it is really freeing to do this in this format. Quicker, faster and results that you can SEE and use right away.

Be sure and sign up for my free report and follow me on Twitter so you can get the latest information I am offering.

See ya soon!

Sue